Yin yang

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Trying to be a Zen mom is constantly a balance.
It's a balance of my expectations of my kids and what they really wind up doing.
It is a balance of my wants versus what my kids want.
It is a balance of my work and my kids.
It is a balance of being sane and being insane.
It is a balance of being the crazy fun club girl my husband met so long ago, and the mother that goes to bed at 9pm that my husband knows today.
Which brings me to that ultimate balance, being a mom and being a wife.
I try to balance this world more than anyone knows and I realize I often fail.
Your partner is often the one to suffer after Job, Children, Personal Interests. Not sure why that is the order by the way. Kids should be first but jobs pay bills and so that is the reality I think.
I know lots of couples that have a date night, which I think is awesome.
But there is a deeper balance that comes from just being friends with your spouse. My husband is a direct yang to my yin. He balances me not only in my efforts to cover snow days when schools decide last minute to cancel rather than delay. But he balances my efforts to have personal interests, and an insane perspective on my self image (that is very intellectual way of saying that when I ask him 'am i fat' he says 'no'- yang in action).

I think everyone deserves this balance. It is not about just finding the partner but it is about finding your own yin or yang in life. For everyone it will be different and for everyone it will take a different level of effort.

Most of my posts are about being a mom and this one is too but it is dedicated to the man who allows me to Be a mom although I know he would prefer I would be more Pre-2008 Club Angie (yes I gave her a name). My life is truly balanced with him by my side.

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